This is for anyone that reads my blog that is over the age of 25...ish, lol.
When do parents finally take into consideration that you are no longer a "child" and are very much GROWN. After I have had a child, gotten my own place, and been supporting myself...I am still BABIED. Case in point, I have a new boo...and I invited him to the crib for the first time. It just so happens that same evening my mother visits. Now, my mom hates EVERYONE I date. Never does she have anything nice to say about one person. But she comes over plays with her grandson and then leaves. At 4 am I receive a phone call...
Ma: "Is that nigga still there?"
Me: *sleepily* "Yes"
Ma: "I know you don't have some nigga sleeping over there in the house with my grandbaby!"
Me: "Sure do...BYE!"
Now this is the first time I have had a guy spend the night with me, since my son has been born (except my best friend and godbrother that frequents my couch after the club). I finally felt like I could bring this guy around to meet my son because I feel strongly about him. Yet, the first thing that comes to my mother's mind is...I'm about to fuck.
Now there are numerous situations where my mother trets me as if I am still under her roof, and I do not know how to really make it cease. How do I bring this topic up in a way that I am not disrespectful. I mean I make mistakes, but I do like to believe that most of my decisions now days are pretty damn good. UGH...what to do???
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Sorry but it never stops.
I am at home visiting until I move back to Atlanta at the end of the month. I get babied about EVERYTHING from eating veggies on down to putting a coat on just to run and check the mail. My parents were never involved in my relationship life b/c they know that I am quick to cut someone off, so they felt that it was no point. But honestly, I don't think it ever ends.
My mother even says to me "You might ___ years old but you're still my baby."
Wow.
Um I really don't know! lol I've never had this problem with my mom - I mean she has added her 2 cents in on stuff but never has she tried to parent me from afar so to speak [by the way my period key on this old laptop doesn't work, so this will be on complete run on sentence! lol]
I would just sit down face to face and politely explain that you are an adult and you know what your doing - and if that doesn't work say lookie here if you want more grandkids in the future and me happily married off RELAX n CHILL!!!!
My mom has never been this way but my grandparents will not let me be an adult for my life. When I visit on holidays and go out with friends my grandmother says... dont stay out too late... uummm... I am 27 years old... I dont have a curfew.
Seriously... there is nothing you will ever be able to do to convince them that you are an adult. I guess its just one of those facts of life.
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