6 Random Facts

I am quite surprised...I was tagged by Miss Jia to do these 6 random facts. Since not too many people know much about me, this was quite easy.


1. I did not learn how to drive until my 20th birthday. Well no, let me stop lying. I actually took Driver's Ed in high school when I was 15...BUT after an accident I had a few weeks after the class I never got behind the wheel of a car again. That is until I purchased my first car on my birthday...I learned how to drive in that car.

2. I did not graduate with the majority of my senior class. Thanks to missing over 20+ days in my second semester of senior year (I was 2 months pregnant then and morning sickness was a bitch). I couldn't make up all my hours before my graduation date...and ended up not walking. I actually graduated 1 month later in a small ceremony with about ten other students at my high school's library.

3. One of my biggest pet peeves, is for a female to forget who her real friends are after becoming involved with a man. I have actually stopped talking to a few friends because of that. I understand having less time for your girls. I don't understand when you only have time for friends if that nigga does you wrong. I am a firm believer in having a little bit of independence away from your man. Making everything about your man will leave you with a whole lot of heartache.

4. I have never been in love...and I am fine with that. After seeing some of the things that love does to females, I definitely do not mind staying away from it for a while.

5. I absolutely HATE being wrong...which is why I NEVER argue unless I know I am right AND I have proof to back it up. So if I actually continue to argue you down...trust and believe YOU WILL NOT WIN. If I back down that means I am a bit unsure.

6.I envy females that still have the fathers of their children still involved in their child's life. But, I can't stand to see a female take that shit for granted. Things like that really hit a sore spot with me.

Now seeing that not too many people read my blog yet...I will be tagging a few people I know from Twitter that have blogs.

Now, here are the rules:

1. LINK TO THE PERSON WHO TAGGED YOU
2. POST THE RULES ON YOUR BLOG
3. WRITE SIX RANDOM THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF
4. TAG SIX PEOPLE AT THE END OF YOUR POST AND LINK TO THEM
5. LET EACH PERSON KNOW THEY ARE TAGGED AND LEAVE A COMMENT ON THEIR BLOG
6. LET THE TAGGER KNOW WHEN YOUR ENTRY IS UP
7. DON’T BREAK THE CHAIN (not actually a rule)

I am tagging the following:

1. TS Sexy Chanel
2. Symone
3. Marie Denee
4. Ms. Wright
5. Bethany

...and tagging anyone else that may read this and has a blog ( can't think of six folk right now).

Question????

This is for anyone that reads my blog that is over the age of 25...ish, lol.

When do parents finally take into consideration that you are no longer a "child" and are very much GROWN. After I have had a child, gotten my own place, and been supporting myself...I am still BABIED. Case in point, I have a new boo...and I invited him to the crib for the first time. It just so happens that same evening my mother visits. Now, my mom hates EVERYONE I date. Never does she have anything nice to say about one person. But she comes over plays with her grandson and then leaves. At 4 am I receive a phone call...

Ma: "Is that nigga still there?"

Me: *sleepily* "Yes"

Ma: "I know you don't have some nigga sleeping over there in the house with my grandbaby!"

Me: "Sure do...BYE!"

Now this is the first time I have had a guy spend the night with me, since my son has been born (except my best friend and godbrother that frequents my couch after the club). I finally felt like I could bring this guy around to meet my son because I feel strongly about him. Yet, the first thing that comes to my mother's mind is...I'm about to fuck.

Now there are numerous situations where my mother trets me as if I am still under her roof, and I do not know how to really make it cease. How do I bring this topic up in a way that I am not disrespectful. I mean I make mistakes, but I do like to believe that most of my decisions now days are pretty damn good. UGH...what to do???

Greedy Heifers...Walk a Mile in my Shoes!

Today as I checked my YT subscriptions I came across Miss Jia's TI + Child Support video, and it hit a few nerves with me. Not just with the Lashon Dixon situation but with "baby's mamas"...PERIOD.

I am a single mother. In my son's 3 years on this earth my son has NEVER seen his father, received a dime, or even the courtesy of a happy birthday phone call. My son's father has never seen a picture, nor asked for one. And he actually takes contracting jobs under the table so he can not be found by Child Enforcement and his wages can not be touched. This jigga actually moved out of the state of NC to get the hell away from my child and me.

Luckily, my child is surrounded by positive male influences (godbrother and my best male friend). Not to mention he never wants for a DAMN thing. Allthough I can not be the man he needs in his life...I make damn sure he sees a positive male image on the regular because that is what I want him to grow into. I do not hunt down my son's father, nor do I go bad mouthing him in the streets. First of all, because I know he will get what is coming to him. Secondly, I saw my mother go through Child Support battles my whole life only to receive a whopping $68/month. It is tiring and takes such a negative toll on not only the mother but the child too.

But moving on...I hate to see single mother's fall into the "baby mama" syndrome. The typical sideline hater on the father, or chick that always has to argue with new girl. A chick that does not have her CHILD'S best interest at heart when going after money. Or a woman that will attempt to keep a child from a father just because he can't pay for all your extra. As far as I am concerned if a man invests his time and efforts into bringing up his child. If he is as involved in that child's life as the mother...then I see no reason for a child support case.

Now don't get me wrong...I do know there are some deadbeats out there and some women have no chioice but to go after them. But there are many "baby's mamas" out there that give single mothers such as myself a bad name...and I need all you chickens to SADDOWN (sit down)!

Still getting it....

Ok, Ok...I KNOW!

My ass surely has not been updating my blog about my healthier lifestyle endeavors like I said I would. Off to a bad dammit start already, lol. BUT...I have been good I have worked out 5 times a day and sometimes twice a day. I eat well and do not drink sodas or indulge in junk any longer. I have even had to get on my self hard about eating 3 meals a day and 2 snacks. There has only been two days where I was off with my food (New Years Eve and New Years Day) and tat is because my wisdom tooth was being a bitch and I needed to get it cut out. So I couldn't eat AT ALL. I stayed in bed heavily medicated with the Anbesol at my bed side.

Other than that I have been doingvery well...and the Body for Life program really seems to fit me. I also bought a few new work out items for days I just can't make it to the gym. I hit up Ebay and bougt sets of dumbbells (3, 5, and 8 lbs) I also got ankle and wrist weights, an excercise ball and mat, and a Jillian Micheals workout DVD along with Mel B (from the spice girls, lol) workout video. I really like the Mel B video. I just like hearing her talk and her overall enthusiasm...PLUS, her body is the shit.

Anyway, I will try to keep this updated at least weekly. Simply because I hardly find time to step away from the Blackberry or some work I am doing to do a daily update. Soooo, lookout for me on Sundays with those updates.

Yea, I'm Late! (Day 1)

Ok, so... I said I would post daily about my progress for Body for Life and I'm fucking up already, lol. Nah, just a little extra busy. I'll do better.

My meals consisted of:
Breakfast (Special K, 2% milk, a green apple and water)
Snack (vanilla yogurt, mandarin oranges)
Lunch (1/2 turkey wrap, small garden salad with oil and vinegar, and a banana)
Snack (1/2 cup almonds and handful of baby carrots)
Dinner (shrimp stir fry, brown rice, a orange)

I downed all the water I could yesterday (3 24 oz bottles)

When I woke up I did my hip hop abs video. I also went to the gym that evening an did some upper body weight training.

Yesterday was a good day...and I feel as if I can stick with it.